What You Give, You Get

When I mention “let’s do a social experiment,” my friends and family head for the hills.  So this time I did one on myself.  After ranting about all the pitching at an industry conference, I decided to do something about it:  stop pitching myself.  I figured, “Hey, I can’t gripe when I talk about my services.”

Instead of boycotting the conference, I boycotted the selling.  Instead of charging for my time, I gave away five 30-minute sessions for free.  (With no pitching afterward.)  Two things happened:  first, the gratitude from participants warmed my heart.  Almost every one of them said, “This is brilliant.  What can I do for you?”  It never occurred to me that folks would want to return the favor so quickly.  There’s a different reaction to when you give fully and walk away, versus giving fully with a pitch.  My theory:  it’s hard to fully appreciate what you’ve been given when you dread the pitch that’s coming next.

Second, I learned that when you give fully, the word spreads.  Fast.  I was approached by more people interested in my work than the last four conferences combined.  Why?  Don’t know.  But I think it had something to do with what I gave on the first day.

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